The Story of Spoon

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Every Dave Matthews fan has many favorite songs that rotate round and round. One of my constants has always been Spoon.

Have a listen:

It is an absolutely beautiful song. I just love it’s religious undertones and instrumentally I just find it phenomenal. Being such an outstanding song it had only been played 41 times in the history of the band and less than half of the times it was performed were at full band shows. (Meaning it was either a solo performance at a radio show or an acoustic performance by Dave & Tim) So the song was INCREDIBLY rare.


ANYWAYS I got pit tickets for the show in Tampa, Fl in 2010. It is a fairly typical thing for people to bring signs to the pit. (PIT means general admission front stage). I thought it would be a fun idea to bring about twenty white plastic spoons to the show. I snuck them in (seriously they didn’t want us to bring them in.) and got a front row spot on the rail! I handed them all up and down the front row. After certain songs I would tell them to raise them in the air! I held them up the entire show between song breaks and what not. Finally Dave noticed my spoon and gave me a good laugh. He then played the first two notes after the song Funny The Way It Is.

You can hear the beautiful two seconds here around (5:44):

Or you can watch this video. It happens IMMEDIATELY as the video begins.

After this tease Dave Matthews continued to come up to me during the show and say variations of “I’m trying to remember it”. The entire night he did this. He came up to me once and said “I think I remember the first verse.”

During the encore Dave said “Thank you very much everybody I’m going to try and remember this.”

(Edit) Before he starts Sister I think I can make out Dave saying “gimme 24 hours”

Listen at the end of the tape here at (18:42):

but then I think he just chickened out and played a song called Sister. But after Sister Dave said “I promise I got you, Maybe tomorrow or the next day.”

He then says “I hope you all got what you wanted” then directs an “I’m sorry man.” at me haha

Listen at the end of Sister here (3:45):

Needless to say he didn’t play it in West Palm Beach (The next two shows).

Fun Fact: Dave lied to me. (I’ve forgiven him.)

The Band later announced a fall tour. I bought tickets to the South Carolina and Charlottesville shows! I made it my personal goal to get this song played! I decided to create a Facebook event for the CVILLE shows (The Last of the tour) and made it known that this would be the song that we got played. I told people to start bringing plastic spoons to shows AND THEY DID IN NUMBERS! Someone also started a twitter campaign to tweet Stefan over and over about SPOON.

So the time came for the North Charleston, South Carolina show and I gave out about 50 plastic spoons but not many held them up during the show. My friends Chris and Will were there though with full support. We were all making eye contact with Stefan Lessard (the bassist) the entire night. Then out of nowhere Dave looks at us and turns around and this happens!

He looks at our spoons and then played the first few chords of the song!

During Dave’s solo during the Encore someone had thrown one of the spoons that we had brought up on stage. The band comes back out and Stefan walks up to the spoon on the stage picks it up then nods at Dave. Dave nods back and then Stefan looks at me smiles and sticks his tongue out. I then hear the most amazing thing ever (next to the next amazing thing I will mention). Dave played the last verse of the song! You can see it here (Pay attention at 1:03 where you can see nearly the whole front row holding up plastic spoons) :

When this happened we all KNEW the song was coming back in CVILLE it just had to!

After the show I stayed and asked a crew member if I could get our spoon back that Stefan picked up to cue Dave. The crew member threw me a setlist hahaha. I said “Thanks, but I want the spoon!” (He then gave me the spoon!)

Chris and I proceeded to the parking lot where we laughed cried and IMMEDIATELY turned the car on and BLASTED spoon in the parking lot. We felt almost righteous.

Cville night one comes and we had pit tickets. This night we must have passed out about 100+ plastic spoons to people in the pit. And again not many were holding them up. But after the song Shake Me Like A Monkey Chris, Will, and myself raised up the spoons. And then everyone else did to. Dave looked up and down the front row and then… happened.

Notice they put me up on the Big screen ๐Ÿ™‚ (7:53)
Spoon was played and ironically enough set-listed right where the crowd decided to show off the spoons. Thanks to a very VERY nice guy I traded my Dave pick that I got that night for the setlist. I felt bad taking it but That is now my most prized possession.

The song was played and it was one of the best versions I’ve ever heard.

I said I’d make it happen and It absolutely did.

I’m not going to sit here and say the only reason they played it was because of me BUTTTTTT…..I was at every one of these 2010 shows :]…..just saying.

Spoon in spoon

Stirring my coffee

I thought of you

And turned to the gate

And on my way came up with the answers

I scratched my head

And the answers were gone

From hand to hand,

Wrist to the elbow

Red blood sand

Could Dad be God?

Crosses cross hung out like a wet rag

Forgive you? Why?

You hung me out to dry

And maybe I’m crazy

But laughing out loud

Makes the pain pass by

And maybe you’re a little crazy

But laughing out loud makes it all subside

Holding, I’m holding

I’m still falling,I’m still falling

Spoon in spoon

Stirring my coffee

I thought of this

And turned to the gate

But on my way

Crack lightning and thunder

I hid my head

And the storm slipped away

Well, maybe I’m crazy

But laughing out loud

Makes it all pass by

And maybe you’re a little crazy

And laughing out loud

Makes it all alright

Laughing out loud

From time to time,

Minutes and hours

Some move ahead while

Some lag behind

It’s like the balloon that

Rise and then vanish

This drop of hope

That falls from his eyes

Spoon in spoon

Stirring my coffee

I think of this

And turn to go away

But as I walk

There’re voices behind me saying:

“Sinners sin, come now and play.”

Laughing out loud…

Come now and play…

Last Stop Reprise:

Come in from the cold for a while,

Everything will be all right

Come in from the noise for a time,

Everything will be alright

Everything will be alright

For now, goodbye

Friend, goodbye

Spoon from my perspective:

8 thoughts on “The Story of Spoon

  1. Great story. Thanks for making it happen. Now hopefully they make a DVD release because these shows were incredible!

  2. this was an incredible show. my first in the pit and my daughter and I were right behind you. I got the pick straight from fonzes mouth what a great memory. and I remember you were almost in tears when they actually played spoon which was never onmy favorites list until this show. thanks for bringing the beauty of it to my attention

  3. This was my 51st show and was Spoonless. My daughters first show and it happened ! The best Spoon ever in my opinion. Since then I’ve taken my daughter to 4 more shows and had 3 Spoons !!! From now on , she goes always !!!!

  4. I love that you wrote this story and smiled constantly as I read it. Thanks for a little joy as I wait on the hurricane!

  5. I was just listening to Spoon a bit ago and wondering what song was being played at high speed at the end of the postlude on the BTCS album…in an effort to find out, I Googled “DMB Spoon ending” and somehow found myself here…and I *LOVED* this story! This is one of those cool stories where, when you’re trying to re-tell it to your friends, it’s tough to recreate the magic for everybody who wasn’t there โ€” but in this case, you have so much media and direct references and backstory that it all came together perfectly! Thanks for sharing this! ๐Ÿ˜€

  6. Have listened to Spoon many times over and consider it in my top 10 Dave songs. For some reason this song knocked me off my feet again yesterday. I was researching it a bit and came across this glorious story! Thank you for sharing.

    By any chance, do you know if Alanis ever did it live with them? I canโ€™t find any videos.

    Thank you!

  7. This!!! So ducking amazing!! About to go to bed and thinking suddenly…spoon. Itโ€™s that kinda mood. Then I started online looking for lyrics and then meaning…and stumbled upon this gem. Yeah, even with just the video you could feel it. Unbelievable live performance. Gave me chills and feels. Will be listening to more DMB this week.

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